Four little, seemingly mundane things that make you—extraordinary.
1. On our first date, you discreetly tipped the server at the restaurant. I pretended not to notice, but I was observing how you treated the staff. You were patient and kind, and you said thank you every time our food was brought to the table. I also watched you hold the door for others. I smiled and knew it was a start of a good date—I’d always believed small things like saying thank you say a lot about one’s character.
2. Consistency. You consistently messaged me for more than a year—but we both knew we weren’t ready. We both came from broken relationships, and we knew it wasn’t the best season for us to engage in something serious. I remember how I would reply to your text message after one month (sometimes, even three!), expecting you’d lose interest and never message again. But you still did—and you even sent a post card as you were back-packing across Russia. It’s funny how we both met at the wrong time, but somehow crossed paths again, with our hearts wiser. And this time, ready.
3. You always think of others—both in the grand things and in the everyday. It amazes me how every year, you fly, drive, and sail to far-off barrios with no toilets and electricity to volunteer at a week-long medical mission. I also appreciate how every time I’d ask if you were free to drive me to an event, you’d always reply, “Sure, do you have friends who need to hitch a ride with us, too?” Thank you for humbling my heart, reminding me to serve others.
4. You treat me as an equal—side by side, we’re partners-in-crime. We recognize our weaknesses, but we complement each other with our strengths. We give each other freedom—on what to do, where to go, what to wear, and even who to be. This may sound petty to some, but I came from an extremely toxic relationship where I’d be called a slut for wearing shorts or hanging out with guys—and honestly, I never knew that there existed a kind of love that’s liberating. Not until you.
Happy 28th birthday to my bestfriend, supporter, food trip buddy, adventure partner, proofreader, and let’s-live-life-together-til-we’re-gray-and-old-er. ❤️