Four little, seemingly mundane things that make youāextraordinary.
1. On our first date, you discreetly tipped the server at the restaurant. I pretended not to notice, but I was observing how you treated the staff. You were patient and kind, and you said thank you every time our food was brought to the table. I also watched you hold the door for others. I smiled and knew it was a start of a good dateāIād always believed small things like saying thank you say a lot about oneās character.
2. Consistency. You consistently messaged me for more than a yearābut we both knew we werenāt ready. We both came from broken relationships, and we knew it wasnāt the best season for us to engage in something serious. I remember how I would reply to your text message after one month (sometimes, even three!), expecting youād lose interest and never message again. But you still didāand you even sent a post card as you were back-packing across Russia. Itās funny how we both met at the wrong time, but somehow crossed paths again, with our hearts wiser. And this time, ready.
3. You always think of othersāboth in the grand things and in the everyday. It amazes me how every year, you fly, drive, and sail to far-off barrios with no toilets and electricity to volunteer at a week-long medical mission. I also appreciate how every time Iād ask if you were free to drive me to an event, youād always reply, āSure, do you have friends who need to hitch a ride with us, too?ā Thank you for humbling my heart, reminding me to serve others.
4. You treat me as an equalāside by side, weāre partners-in-crime. We recognize our weaknesses, but we complement each other with our strengths. We give each other freedomāon what to do, where to go, what to wear, and even who to be. This may sound petty to some, but I came from an extremely toxic relationship where Iād be called a slut for wearing shorts or hanging out with guysāand honestly, I never knew that there existed a kind of love thatās liberating. Not until you.
Happy 28th birthday to my bestfriend, supporter, food trip buddy, adventure partner, proofreader, and letās-live-life-together-til-weāre-gray-and-old-er. ā¤ļø